Code of Ethics (Ikhlaq) from Quran’s Ayats

*Including Husband & Wife issues        

The Quran provides a detailed guide to how we should behave, what’s right and wrong, and our responsibilities to our Creator & to each other. This includes being honest, treating others fairly, and living a life of integrity in all areas of life. Some important ideas that come up often are being humble, telling the truth, being just, and showing kindness. The Quran also tells us to avoid being hypocritical, arrogant, and causing harm to others, which is the source of our peace & success in our daily life.

From the Quran, grouped by category:

1. Speech & Communication

* Speak truthfully: Do not lie [22:30] or mix truth with falsehood** [2:42]**

* **Be polite: **Speak kindly to all people **[2:83] **and avoid being rude or harsh [3:159]

* Gentle words: Speak mildly even to those who may be oppositional [20:44]

* Low volume: Do not shout; keep your voice at a moderate level [31:19]

* Avoid gossip: Do not spread rumors [24:15], backbite, or spy on others [49:12]

* Avoid ridicule: Do not make fun of others or call them by offensive nicknames [49:11]

*** Silence over vanity: **Turn away from ill speech and vain talk [23:3, 28:55]

*** Verification: **Verify information from dubious sources before acting on it [49:6]

* Integrity: Do not say what you do not practice yourself [2:44, 62:2]

2. Social Etiquette & Manners

* Humility: Walk on the earth with humility [25:63] and do not be arrogant or boastful [7:13, 31:18]

* Greetings: Return a greeting with one that is better or at least equal [4:86] and greet people when entering their homes** [24:27]**

*** Privacy: **Seek permission before entering others’ houses **[24:27] **or a parents’ private room [24:58]

* Inclusivity: Make room for others in gatherings and assemblies [58:11]

* Honoring Guests: Treat your guests with honor and hospitality [51:24-27]

*** Neighbors & Relatives: **Be kind and dutiful to neighbors and kin [4:36]

*** Conflict Resolution: **Try to reconcile people in conflict [49:9] and promote peace between spouses [4:128]

3. Justice & Ethical Conduct

* Firm Justice: Stand out firmly for justice, even if it is against yourself or your family [4:135, 5:8]

*** Impartiality: **Do not let hatred toward a group lead you to be unjust [5:8]

*** Honesty in Trade: **Give full measure and weight; do not cheat in business [6:152, 17:35]

*** Financial Integrity: **Avoid bribery [2:188] and do not consume usury or interest [2:275]

* Trusts and Promises: Keep your oaths, fulfill all contracts, and honor your promises [5:1, 17:34, 23:8]

* Written Records: Commit debts and transactions to writing for accuracy [2:282]

4. Kindness & Charity

*** Parents: **Show them the highest respect and do not even say a word of annoyance to them [17:23]

* The Needy: Feed the poor [22:36], help those who seek assistance [93:10], and find the needy to offer help [2:273]

*** Orphans: **Protect their property and do not consume it unjustly [4:10, 17:34]

*** Charity without Pride: **Do not invalidate your charity by reminding others of your favors [2:264, 76:9]

*** Spending Moderately: **Be neither miserly nor extravagant with your wealth [17:29, 25:67]

5. Personal Discipline & Character

*** Anger Management: **Restrain your anger and pardon the faults of others [3:134, 42:37]

* Repelling Evil: Respond to bad treatment with something better to bridge enmity [41:34]

*** Patience: **Be patient in times of hardship and suffering [2:153]

*** Forgiveness: **Overlook and forgive the mistakes of others [7:199, 24:22]

*** Self-Purification: **Do not claim yourself to be perfectly pure [53:32]; only God truly knows who is righteous.

* Hope: Never give up hope in the mercy of God [12:87, 39:53]

6. Spiritual & General Conduct

*** Worship and Purity: **Maintain regular prayer [2:43] and physical and spiritual purity [2:222, 9:108]

*** Consultation: **Decide on collective affairs through mutual consultation [42:38]

* Knowledge: Seek knowledge and respect those who possess it [58:11, 96:1]

* Respect for Faiths: Do not insult the deities or beliefs of others [6:108]

* No Compulsion: Do not force your religion on others [2:256]

*** Kindness to All: **Treat non-Muslims in a kind and fair manner [60:8]

 7. Social Harmony & Speech

  **  * Gentleness in Leadership: [3:159] **describes Prophet Muhammad’s leniency. The context is the aftermath of the Battle of Uhud, where some followers made errors; God instructed the Prophet to remain gentle and consult them to prevent them from feeling alienated.

 **   * Verifying Information: [49:6] **was revealed when a messenger brought a false report about a tribe refusing to pay taxes. It established the rule that one must verify news from unreliable sources before taking action.

**    * Avoiding Ridicule: [49:11]** addresses a specific incident where some individuals mocked others based on their past or status. It emphasizes that those being mocked might be better in God’s sight than those mocking them.

  8.  Family & Inheritance

  **  * Kindness to Parents: [17:23] **commands children not to say “uff” (an expression of annoyance). This was crucial in a tribal society where elderly parents often became vulnerable as they aged.

   ** * Rights of Women: [4:7] **established that women have a legal right to inheritance, which was a revolutionary change in a society where only male warriors typically inherited wealth.

  9.  Marriage and Divorce

**    *   Pairs: [78:8]** Allah SWT reminds us of the plan of his creations…..And (have We not created) you in pairs

**   *   Husband’s Duty: [2:231]** instructs men to either retain their wives in “fairness” OR release them  “amicably.” The context was to end the pre- Islamic practice of “harmful retention,” where men would    divorce and take back wives repeatedly just to keep them in limbo.

 **  *   Relationship of Mercy: [2:187]** The  Quran portrays the husband-wife relationship as one of love,   

  mercy, and  mutual protection, acting as “garments” for each other.

    ***  Choice of Last Name: Sahih Bukhari No. 3508 – **“Anyone who knowingly attributes themselves to  

  someone other than their  father is guilty of disbelief. Whoever claims to belong to a people who  have 

  nothing to do with them [in blood lineage], let them take their  place in the fire.” 

    ***  ** Dowry Must be given: [4:4 ] “You shall give the women their due dowries,  equitably. If they    

   willingly forfeit anything, then you may accept it;  it is rightfully yours.” 

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NOTES:

To truly understand, it helps to look at the Arabic terminology used in the Quran. These terms carry deep linguistic nuances that define the Muslim character.

1. General Moral Conduct

* Adab (أدب): While the word Adab isn’t in the Quran itself, it is the umbrella term for the refined manners, etiquette, and “good breeding” derived from the verses.

* Birr (بر): Often translated as “righteousness” or “piety.” It refers to a comprehensive goodness that combines faith with action (2:177).

* Qist (قسط): Absolute equity. It is more specific than just “justice”; it refers to the practical application of fairness in every deal and measurement.

2. Speech & Social Interaction

* Qawlan Karima (قولاً كريماً): “A word of honor.” Specifically used regarding parents—speech that is generous, noble, and respectful (17:23).

* Qawlan Layyina (قولاً ليناً): “Mild/Gentle speech.” Even when speaking to a tyrant like Pharaoh, God commanded Moses to use this tone (20:44).

* Ghibah (غيبة): Backbiting. The Quran vividly describes this as “eating the flesh of your dead brother” to emphasize its repulsiveness (49:12).

* Sukhriyyah (سخرية): Ridicule or mockery. Forbidden because it stems from a heart of arrogance (49:11).

3. Inner Virtues (The Heart)

* Sabr (صبر): Often translated as “patience,” but it more accurately means “steadfastness” and “self-restraint” under pressure (2:153).

* Ikhlas (إخلاص): Sincerity and purity of intention. Doing good solely for God, not for “Riya” (showing off).

* Tawadu (تواضع): Humility. Literally to “lower the wing,” symbolizing a gentle, protective, and non-arrogant posture toward others (15:88).

* Hilm (حلم): Forbearance. The ability to stay calm and rational when provoked by the ignorant (25:63).

4. Financial & Communal Ethics

* Amanah (أمانة): Trustworthiness. It refers to being honest with everything entrusted to you, from a secret to a business loan (4:58).

* Ihsan (إحسان): Excellence. It means doing things in the best possible way and worshipping God as if you see Him. It is the highest level of conduct (16:90).

* Shura (شورى): Consultation. The moral obligation to seek the opinions of others before making communal decisions (42:38).

5. Forgiveness

* ‘Afw (عفو): To pardon and let go.

* Safh (صفح): To overlook. While ‘Afw is forgiving the sin, Safh is turning the page completely—not even mentioning the mistake again (24:22).

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Quran 3:159 – describes Prophet Muhammad’s leniency. The context is the aftermath of the Battle of Uhud, where some sahaba made errors; God instructed the Prophet SWW to remain gentle and consult them to prevent them from feeling alienated.

Quran 49:6 – was revealed when a messenger brought a false report about a tribe refusing to pay taxes. It established the rule that one must verify news from unreliable sources before taking action.

Quran 49:11 – addresses a specific incident where some individuals mocked others based on their past or status. It emphasizes that those being mocked might be better in God’s sight than those mocking them. rewrite and follow seo ranking content without losing old text